A message for betrayed husbands everywhere
When the discussion turns to infidelity, betrayed husband’s often
seem to be a forgotten group. I’m not sure why this is, but it seems
really unfair.
I think that they hurt every bit as much as betrayed wives do, but all too often they either suffer in silence or people some how blame them for the cheating.
Now I’m not a man, and I can’t claim to know juts how a man feels when they have been betrayed, but if it’s anything like I felt, it must be awful. Add to that the feeling that they have no one to turn to for care and support, and it must be a very lonely place to be indeed.
The betrayed husbands that i have known personally were treated horribly by their wives. Their hearts were stomped on, and when they did open up about it, all too often they were treated with disdain or, if they admitted that they still had feelings for their wives, they were made to feel like less of a man for feeling that way.
I don’t like that one bit.
On the off chance that a betrayed husband reads my blog, I’d like to say a few words directed at them.
Your spouses cheating is not your fault. They have a problem and they took it out on you. Your marriage may not have been perfect, but like anyone else who cheated, they had other choices they could have made, and they chose infidelity.
You are not less of a man, you have nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. It’s also okay if you still love your spouse. You can’t be expected to just turn your feelings off.
Whether you reconcile or divorce is up to you and you alone. Whatever decision you make, do it because it’s what’s right for you, and don;t worry about what anyone else thinks.
You will get through this. Your days will get better and you will find happiness again in your life.If you choose to stay together, that’s great, but if you don’t, please don’t give up on love. There is someone out there who will love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated…with respect and love
Don’t be afraid o ask for help in getting through this. Counseling or therapy can make a huge difference.
I repeat…you will get through this. Many of us have stood right where you are, we understand what it’s like to be betrayed. We got through it and you can too
I think that they hurt every bit as much as betrayed wives do, but all too often they either suffer in silence or people some how blame them for the cheating.
Now I’m not a man, and I can’t claim to know juts how a man feels when they have been betrayed, but if it’s anything like I felt, it must be awful. Add to that the feeling that they have no one to turn to for care and support, and it must be a very lonely place to be indeed.
The betrayed husbands that i have known personally were treated horribly by their wives. Their hearts were stomped on, and when they did open up about it, all too often they were treated with disdain or, if they admitted that they still had feelings for their wives, they were made to feel like less of a man for feeling that way.
I don’t like that one bit.
On the off chance that a betrayed husband reads my blog, I’d like to say a few words directed at them.
Your spouses cheating is not your fault. They have a problem and they took it out on you. Your marriage may not have been perfect, but like anyone else who cheated, they had other choices they could have made, and they chose infidelity.
You are not less of a man, you have nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. It’s also okay if you still love your spouse. You can’t be expected to just turn your feelings off.
Whether you reconcile or divorce is up to you and you alone. Whatever decision you make, do it because it’s what’s right for you, and don;t worry about what anyone else thinks.
You will get through this. Your days will get better and you will find happiness again in your life.If you choose to stay together, that’s great, but if you don’t, please don’t give up on love. There is someone out there who will love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated…with respect and love
Don’t be afraid o ask for help in getting through this. Counseling or therapy can make a huge difference.
I repeat…you will get through this. Many of us have stood right where you are, we understand what it’s like to be betrayed. We got through it and you can too
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