Sleeping with another woman’s husband

Posted on August 31, 2013 | Leave a comment | Edit

This is just a short post, as it’s late and I’m tired.
I think I get why a other man or woman wants to forget that their affair partner is married. In some ways, it probably makes things easier, especially if they have a conscience.
so man of them speak about how hard it is to end the affair, how guilty they feel, and how they know it;s not right for them but they just can’t seem to let go.
I wonder if it would be any easier if they were to find a picture of the betrayed spouse, and attach a sticky note to it that says “I am sleeping with is wife or her husband and they don’t deserve it. This family will be ripped apart and their children hurt. The affair needs to end. NOW!” . put it in the bathroom so it’s the first thing to be seen in the morning and the last at night. Put on on the cellphone laptop, monitor, or wherever else they are needed.
Maybe this exercise may seem futile, but perhaps the constant reminders and the fact that they are next to a picture of the person in question may make them seem tangible and real…someone with feelings too.
I don’t think that most other men/women want to hurt the betrayed spouse…it’s more likely they are either trying to avoid thinking about it  because it’s painful, they think they deserve to be betrayed or they simply do not care if the betrayed person gets hurt or not…so long as they get their own way.
Don’t stoop to the level of “if it wasn’t me he or she was having the affair with, it would be somebody else”. The truth is, it;s not somebody else…it’s you! You have the power to stop allowing it to continue. Sure, married married person will simply find another affair partner, but if they do, did they really care that much about you in the first place? If not, then why stay with them?