How can anyone do something like this?

Posted on November 18, 2013 | Leave a comment | Edit

I can understand how it could be very frustrating for an other woman to know that her relationship has a pretty high chance of going nowhere. Night after night, he goes home to his wife and kids. Of course he probably says that he’s miserable, but somehow, he still goes back.
An other woman invests so much time, energy and emotion into the affair, yet he still doesn’t choose her. What can she do?
I would like to think that after a while , she realizes that nothing will change…he’ll just go right on hurting her. What can she do? She has a couple of options available to her, some much more “sane” than others.
She could gather up all her strength and courage and end the affair. Difficult and painful, but probably the best course to take. Who knows? Maybe he’ll even decide that he wants to be with her full time after all, and if she doesn’t, was he worth it?  Or she could keep things going and maintain the status quo. Of course, that changes nothing, but if she lies to herself enough, maybe it will be okay.
Then there’s the option that some other women take, and I;d like to believe that there’s only a few that do. They get pregnant hoping it will tie them together.
I know, I know…accidents happen. This isn’t what I am talking about. What I’m referring to is a desperate and deliberate act. Who cares if she’s using an innocent  child to get what she wants…as long as she and her “soul mate” are together, all is good.
Or is it?
I’ve often wondered what a child in this situation goes through, knowing that mommy and daddy don’t live together, that daddy has a wife and kids that were around when mommy got pregnant and that they were just a pawn in a sick game. Of course, some will say that they would love their son or daughter and never let them feel that way, but come on , kids aren’t idiots…they are a lot more perceptive than some give them credit for.
Why put a child through that? How is that fair to them? If it takes getting pregnant to keep your “soul mate” in your life, what’s the point in the first place? He’d obviously rather be with his wife.
I know that some other women will smugly point out that “well, lots of wives do it too”, and maybe some do. I would tell them the same thing.