The Vultures are Circling…

Posted on November 19, 2013 | 1 Comment | Edit

Have you ever watched a nature program on tv and seen footage of scavengers feasting on the remains of a dead animal? I have, and I always find it, on a very visceral level, quite repulsive. Watching them gleefully tear up the carcass is really nasty. The saving grace is that with animals, they are doing it to survive because they, like all living things need to eat. They don’t have other options.
Keeping that image in mind, let’s move on to other men and women and the way they pick over the bones of a marriage. Not only do they contribute to it’s demise, some also seem to take great pleasure in scavenging the remains. On sites they frequent, they pat each other on the back and even “high five” each other when the married person either decides to divorce or has the decision taken away from them when the betrayed spouse kicks them to the curb ( a more common scenario).
After all, isn’t it wonderful that they and their soul mate can now be together? Who cares who got hurt in the process, so long as they get what they want? They then b@tch and complain if anyone points it out to them that they played a part in the marriage ending. how dare anyone suggest such a thing? They were simply sitting their, minding their own business when oops, married person came along and forced them into an affair! Now they are in love, don;t you know, and as long as it’s all about “love”, how can anyone find fault?
I know I should be more kind and understanding, The blind archer simply shoots the arrows and people have no choice but to follow their heart. Okay, that’s a big load of you-know-what. While people can’t control who they feel attracted to, they have  options, they have better choices, but they decided to get involved in an affair.
They may pay lip service to the idea that they really didn’t want to hurt anyone, but what on earth did they think was going to happen? That the betrayed spouse would welcome the affair and be happy to see their marriage end? That they wouldn’t be hurt?
It’s naivety like that that always surprises me. How in the world can someone really believe that an affair isn’t going to cause pain for everyone affected? I suppose that it’s back to the old idea that if something is done for “love” that it somehow makes everything okay.
All is NOT fair in love and war. Affairs hurt, people who have been cheated on may carry wounds that take a long time to heal, if they ever do.